May 15, 2006

Sex? Or no sex- or sex? I’m so confused…

Filed under: My Life — happychick @ 6.38p05

Have you ever said something, knowing full-well you'll regret it, but still you say it? I did that today. Recently, I've been, more, er- "sexually inclined". There's been a dramatic increase in the making-out/groping part of my relationship, and, well, today, I said to Pete, while we were doing Math homework(of all things!)-

"Hey, if you want, and if I feel like it, I'll have sex with you for your birthday". He was all for the idea, as long as I was ready(what a babe!). And, well, I want to, just- well, I'll say it- I don't want him to laugh, or worse, to judge me. No-one(with the exception of my Mum and my doctor) has seen my genitals during my teenage years. It's kind of a private thing, and, well- it's sort-of sacred, really.

So yeah. I'm gonna talk to Mum about it when she gets back(she's gone on a work-related trip), and see what she thinks/suggests/threatens to do if I go through with it. 🙂

Speaking of my Mum- to all those out there- Happy Mothers Day!(for yesterday). Mum's do a great job, and deserve credit for it every day- but for those of us who take most things for granted, there's Mothers Day. I bought mine a rice cooker. And, in honour of my Mum, I wrote a poem-

"There are so many who look up to you-

Friends and family- colleugues too,

But what you never seem to see,

Is that, your biggest fan- is me.

You  are all that I aim to be,

Not models, or chicks on TV,

If I turned out, just like you-

I'd be simply thrilled- and this is due

To the fact that you are everything-

And I mean it when I say everything-

To the fact that you are everything-

Everything to me."

So, yeah- that took me like 5 minutes so don't judge me or I'll CyberKick your ass. 🙂

Love to all, let me know your views on my sexual adventure, xx chick



  1. The fact that you are willing to talk to your mom says a lot to me. You’re a great kid. I love your poem, it is the sweetest thing.

    Comment by jcoftw — May 15, 2006 @ 6.38p05

  2. OK, this might sound conservative but my first impulse on reading you feel confused is to suggest you wait a while until you are more sure of your feelings. Then I read you’re planning to talk to your mum and I’m astounded at how balanced and perceptive you’re being. I think, on balance, I come down on the side of caution – listen to your inner voice and be sure of when you want to go ahead. I’m sure you hate hearing this, but you’re young, you have plenty of time for this decision. So long as you are true to yourself you’ll make the right decision.

    Comment by Mr Angry — May 15, 2006 @ 6.38p05

  3. so happy chick’s back 😛 the adventure’s jus up to yourself, whatever you do; dont forget the safe part! have a nice time with yer boy
    & your poem was great for jus 5 minutes

    Comment by Hell Boy — May 15, 2006 @ 6.38p05

  4. don’t waste your virginity on someone who might not be there a little while along the road…

    Comment by A — May 15, 2006 @ 6.38p05

  5. Hmm. Well, first of all, I loved your poem. It was a great tribute to your mother, whom you obviously adore.

    Sex. Well, I am a slut from way back so my first instinct is to tell you to do it. Do it safe, but do it. Now that I have three girls myself, I don’t think I can say that and mean it.

    15 is probably, by most teenagers’ standards, an acceptable age to have sex (I know it was by mine). Happychick, you ultimately have to listen to your heart on this one. Your virginity is something you can never get back again. It is very precious. Make sure you don’t give it away lightly. Wish I had some more profound words to impart, but I don’t.

    Be safe!

    The Bastard.

    Comment by bofh69 — May 16, 2006 @ 6.38p05

  6. Well Happychick, that is a really big step. I gave my virginity to my highschool sweetheart and it turned out to be one my dumber decisions in life. I ended up getting pregnant. Think real hard about this, once you give it up, you can’t get it back. You are so young yet, and have plenty of time. Talk to your Mom, speak from your heart and she will listen. And if you do decide to do it, please use condoms and birth control. 🙂

    Comment by The Blonde — May 16, 2006 @ 6.38p05

  7. I can’t say how much it means to know that you all care enough about me to write such heartfelt and advice-filled comments.
    Sandra- My Mum is THE best. Seriously. What would one do without their mother?
    Mr Angry- I’m shocked! Who would think that you, of all people, would be even somewhat conservative? But I like it- “True to yourself” I’ll keep that advice for a long time to come.
    Keith- Safe is the only way- I DO NOT plan to get pregnant any time in the next decade.
    A- I don’t know you, but I agree that virginity is a big thing. I wont be careless. Thanks!
    Mark- I don’t doubt for a second ur a big slut- Bloody Man-Whore! But, that said, thanks for the advice- it’s something my Mum would say… Best big bro EVER!
    The Blonde- Did you keep your baby? I’ll be sure not to become the statistic of teenage Mums…

    Love to all, xxx

    Comment by happychick — May 16, 2006 @ 6.38p05

  8. Yes, she did keep the baby. My oldest daughter Carol Anne. I am very glad she did. Carol is a wonderful, loving person.

    Comment by bofh69 — May 16, 2006 @ 6.38p05

  9. And she is the greatest person. Even though I made a mistake and took responsibility for it, I can’t call her a mistake. She was God’s gift to me and I thank him every day. I love her very much.

    Comment by The Blonde — May 16, 2006 @ 6.38p05

  10. I’ve got to correct that last comment, “She was God’s gift to us” Sorry baby I’ve got to include you in that, she’s your daughter too.

    Comment by The Blonde — May 16, 2006 @ 6.38p05

  11. my hat’s off to you gurl! very truthful and yet thought-provoking! hehe keep it up! cheers! Ü

    Comment by Mayang — May 16, 2006 @ 6.38p05

  12. I have an idea. How about no sex?

    Comment by Anonymous — May 20, 2014 @ 6.38p05

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